As I grew up, I had
always wanted to be with the prince charming. A man who would sweep me off my
feet; in other words Mr. Right, as many would call him. I had my list, ready to
check if any of the guys coming really met my standards. Yea…I have been there.
In the list of things,
a very conspicuous requirement for any guy to be considered would be financial
stability. Very valid. A man is the one supposed to take care of the family,
not only financially, but also emotionally, physically and even spiritually (I
came to know of these others later though). God even affirms this in his word (1 Timothy 5:9 “If any one does not take care
of his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the
faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”). The problem however comes in when
we put money as the number one priority, above all things. So long as a man has
money then that becomes the ultimate ‘blessing’. Everything else fails to
matter…his character notwithstanding. You may have occasionally heard grown
women say ‘I would rather cry in a range rover than smile on a boda boda’. Then I wonder, the range
rover, and all it comes with of course, is it worth the tears, and all they
come with?
It is easy to laugh and
eventually agree with the statement. A range rover, a good house, money you
don’t struggle to have and all the nice things. ‘What else would anybody want
in this world?’ you wonder. Now for the boda
boda, it’s quite the opposite. Nothing outstanding or glamorous about it.
It is just a bicycle, open (nothing much to hide or show anyway). But then
there is the smile. This means that you don’t get everything you want, but at
least you get to have all you need, plus the joy and peace which bring the
smile. Not so bad. Many of us ladies compare these two and the money on the
range rover side seems so appealing that we choose to overlook the crying. It
looks like we can handle it. Yea right!
Well I think there are
facts we need to face. Good things normally look too good when we look at them
from outside the fence. But on getting in, experiencing their true goodness may
prove a task if the environment is not conducive. It does not need rocket
science to prove this fact. Enjoying the goodness and splendour of a good life
will not be a reality with eyes covered with tears and no peace. It may sound
sadistic what I am saying here but the girl smiling on the boda boda may just live 50 more years of joy after the one who
opted for the range rover passes on. The stress and even depression that result
from the tears and all kinds of turmoil make the journey to the grave shorter
and faster many a times.
